Happy International Women's Day to all of our members and thank you for your ongoing support and inspiration.
I have volunteered to become an ambassador for nice mums, please bare with me as I've never done anything like this before.
My name is Jodie, I am 32 years old and I have two beautiful girls. My eldest is 5 and started school this year and my youngest will be 2 next week. (Sorry my pic is a tad out of date.) I currently work part time in Exeter and live in Paignton. I enjoy going to work and my youngest enjoys a couple of days at the childminders. When I returned to work after my first I felt like I got part of my identity back. It was amazing just enjoying a peaceful lunch break and talking about something other then poop and weaning.
I have a partner of 9 years who works full time. We have a great relationship and enjoy a lot of banter, but raising kids is tough and does put a massive strain on your relationship. We have definitely had to work at it and adapt it.
I love being a mummy but at times it can be very stressful. I tend to start each day telling myself that I won't shout, but generally by about 8.30 my voice has possibly 'raised' several times. The mum guilt I experience on a daily basis is immense, but I realised that because I experience that guilt it must mean I'm a good mum or I wouldn't worry. I want to help other mums who are struggling to know that they are doing there best and that they are amazing. At the end of the day if our kids are happy then we have nailed it. Mums have it hard as there is so much pressure on them and not always the right support. I'm also looking to meet new friends and enjoy some days out.
Sorry for the long waffle.
Look forward to meeting you all at some point.
Hello ladies or should I say fellow Mummy's,
I have volunteered to take on an Ambassador role for the Nice Mum's group. Before I start to waffle on about me, my boys and my situation I think I should introduce myself.
My name is Jenny and I am a 28 year old single mum (this is quite recent, so I am still finding my way) with two gorgeous young boys. I am currently on maternity leave but before that I was a full time working Mummy, as my ex-partner was at home. My boys are Harvey who is 3years old and Freddie who is just over 3months old.
I always thought being a single Mum looked like hard work, if only I knew then what I know now. Its probably the hardest thing that I have ever had to do, I would say maybe even worse than childbirth and we all know that's no walk in the park, don't we ladies??? (My first born was an horrific labour but hay maybe thats for another blog). It's the not having someone there to help you out with the little things like making the dinner or doing bathtime. Or just saying sit down you look tired I can do that for you. I have to do it all, no matter how tired I am or how ill I feel its just me, that is taking some getting used too! I also struggle more at night once the boys are in bed. I overthink the day, did I spend enough time with both of them, I didn't leave Harvey out because Freddie needed feeding or changing or just wanted a cuddle with Mummy. Then I start to think maybe I shouted or got cross too much with him as he didn't do what I asked or woke his brother up, (these are the things you would normally talk to your partner about) it just plays on my mind and I start to doubt myself that I'm not coping and that the boys will hold this against me. Don't get me wrong I have amazing support from
family and friends, but they aren't going through this, I am and I have to find ways to realise that I am doing the best I can for my boys and that they do love me and know that I am doing the best I can for them.
I want to be here to form friendships for Mum's who need someone single or not, we need to be here for each other ladies, we need each other, lets be strong for each other and make some amazing memories not just for us but also for our children, they deserve this and hey so do we!!!!!!
I want to remind Mummy's that we are not ust Mummy's, this is something that I have come to realise in the last few weeks that I'm not just Mummy, I am still Jenny and Jenny needs her own time too, with friends or just on her own.
Well I hope I havent waffled on for too long and bored you all but this is just a little bit about me, look forward to talking to some of you and maybe helping if I can.
Thanks for reading ladies
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It's hard to believe that we are five years since this happened. 5 years since your precious legs and fingers were taken from us. Yes it marks 5 years since you took that major step to recovering from the horrific Meningitis but it is also five long years of struggles and future problems. Two corrective procedures, 10 pairs of prosthetics-2 of which didn't work, a wheelchair, 2 walking frames, leg braces, physio, applications and struggles to get a downstairs bedroom and wetroom built for you (plans to start on 6th March if this weather ever gets better!!!) Fundraisers, leg casts, missing teeth as only 11 have grown-3 of which have already dropped out, intensive daily massage to help your scars heal soft to prevent your skin from ripping/hurting as you grow, bone growth plates damaged resulting in your legs only growing 30% from the hip and no growth at all from the knees down, due to growth problems below the knees your legs struggle to support your weight so buckle in at the knees, annual hearing tests, additional illnesses due to lower immune system (chicken pox, scarlet fever, hand foot and mouth, infections in your legs just to name a few).
This is a snippet of what life has been like for Louie in the last 5 years, and we know there is a lot more to come. The next thing being on the 13th April where we will attend a meeting at Alder Hey to discuss 4 more operations to try and lengthen Louie's legs as they have not grown in the last 2 years.
Don't get me wrong, Louie IS a happy little boy and as his Mother I try my hardest to let him experience everything possible in life but the one thing I want to gain from sharing this with you all is that Meningitis not only kills but it ruins the life of survivors too. Vaccines should be used and should be available to everyone!!! But not only use the Vaccines also stay vigilant, know what the symptoms are and get checked out if you are concerned. Everything listed above that Louie has had to go through and more is after being treated within 30 Mins of the first spots appearing!!! Please share and let others know how deadly this disease is xxx
Words and permission to share given by Louie's mum Julie Green.
Nice Mums was formed as a way to help mums connect and build strong armies of friends to march through motherhood with. We are constantly looking to expand our network and are looking for strong Ambassadors to help us build and grow. Ambassadors will be the local faces of Nice Mums, introducing our group to new mums and building upon things such as our discount club and charity operations.
This is the perfect way to make new mum friends and shape Nice Mums into something that works even better for our members. You will be proactive in sharing the word both in person and on social media, and willing to connect with local businesses on our behalf.
Because we only want people getting involved out of passion we offer no pay however you will get free Nice Mum Cards for you and two friends, first dibs on any freebies we get and theatre or festival tickets that often come our way, plus the satisfaction of helping many mothers improve their lives through our group as many have done in the past.
Please get in touch to apply or share with anyone you think may be interested.
New Appeal: Light the Way have teamed up with Humanity Has No Borders ( www.humanityhasnoborders.org ) and Nice Mums ( www.nicemums.com ) to launch a new appeal for donations to go to refugees currently based in Greece. We are collecting funds & donations of torches and disposable nappies which are currently much needed. To help us with our collection please either make a monetary donation via HHNB's page, make a purchase of your choice from our wish list at http://amzn.eu/0r9Xiu8
or contact us to arrange bringing a donation to us. All donations gratefully received ❤️
Are you a mum looking to make new friends? Fancy a few hours away from the kids? The Nice Mums Pub Club is a new monthly mums meet up just for you, held in a different local pub each month and offering the opportunity to build lasting friendships over a glass (or bottle) of whatever you fancy.
Full details on the Nice Mums group page https://www.facebook.com/groups/nicemumsdevon/
When my now 4 year old was teething the only symptom that couldn't be cured with an Amber anklet was his nappy rash. His poor bum blistered terribly and was red raw so I dutifully tried every nappy rash cream I could get my motherly mits on. The habit for trying new creams has stayed with me and so when I came across Myreen Youngs nappy balm I had to order it to try with my 11 week old.
The balm sounded right up my street. Organic, cruelty free and vegan is a trio of things that rarely come together in nappy cream but that I always search for. With those three boxes all ticked I have to admit I didn't expect to be lucky enough for this balm to actually be any good.
Its ingredients include lavender & tea tree essential oils along with olive leaf extract & chamomile.
Arriving beautifully packaged (not something you can usually say for bum cream) in a handy pump bottle the balm pumps out easily in small amounts and glides on smoothly leaving a thin layer of white cream that I've found does not stain cloth nappies like some other creams. The ease of application and lack of mess has totally won me over alongside the ethical nature of the product. What's more, the cream is totally affordable costing just £4.50. Of all the nappy creams I've tried over the years this one is by far my favourite and I highly recommend it. Available from www.myreenyoung.co.uk where you can also find a range of other baby skincare products.
Review by Steffi
To celebrate the Nice Mum Cards 4th birthday all 12 month memberships are just £3 for the whole of January including postage!
For just £3 (usual price £7.50) you can access discounts at all your favourite local businesses including play cafes, gyms, hair & beauty salons, shops, restaurants and more!
Get yours and see our full list of discounts at www.nicemums.com/discounts
Hey lovely ladies.
Just had the urge to share this with you all as I know many of you are expecting at the moment.
So, a year ago today my second son Buzz, who was 4 days old at the time suffered a horrific brain injury from newborn jaundice.
We had been discharged from the hospital with a slightly yellow baby on day2, had 2 midwifes visit us at home and commenting on how jaundiced he was. But none of them tested his bilirubin levels. Everyone kept telling us it was nothing to worry about and sadly we knew no different.
We now know there is a very simple test that all the professionals we saw should have done. This would have resulted in Buzz receiving the treatment he needed before it was too late.
So on day 4, a year ago today, Buzz had stopped feeding and seemed distressed so we rushed him in to hospital. 8 hours after arriving there we were told he probably wouldn't make it through the night and if he did he would have severe brain damage. They started treatment at that point, they saved his life but sadly he has brain damage and life it now so tough for him - he has cerebral palsy, dystonia, awful reflux, epilepsy, an unsafe swallow so has to be tube fed and isn't expected to make it to adulthood.
Absolutely not looking for sympathy please, Buzz is the most awesome hero around, literally we feel sooooo ridiculously blessed to have him- he's just amazing in every single way!
Just felt like warning you lovely mummies in my favourite FB group on the anniversary of Buzz's brain injury- newborn jaundice can cause brain damage and even kill. Please make sure if your baby is at all yellow you get their levels tested. And if you have any concerns at all about your baby, make sure they listen to you, Mum knows best.