Hello ladies or should I say fellow Mummy's,
I have volunteered to take on an Ambassador role for the Nice Mum's group. Before I start to waffle on about me, my boys and my situation I think I should introduce myself.
My name is Jenny and I am a 28 year old single mum (this is quite recent, so I am still finding my way) with two gorgeous young boys. I am currently on maternity leave but before that I was a full time working Mummy, as my ex-partner was at home. My boys are Harvey who is 3years old and Freddie who is just over 3months old.
I always thought being a single Mum looked like hard work, if only I knew then what I know now. Its probably the hardest thing that I have ever had to do, I would say maybe even worse than childbirth and we all know that's no walk in the park, don't we ladies??? (My first born was an horrific labour but hay maybe thats for another blog). It's the not having someone there to help you out with the little things like making the dinner or doing bathtime. Or just saying sit down you look tired I can do that for you. I have to do it all, no matter how tired I am or how ill I feel its just me, that is taking some getting used too! I also struggle more at night once the boys are in bed. I overthink the day, did I spend enough time with both of them, I didn't leave Harvey out because Freddie needed feeding or changing or just wanted a cuddle with Mummy. Then I start to think maybe I shouted or got cross too much with him as he didn't do what I asked or woke his brother up, (these are the things you would normally talk to your partner about) it just plays on my mind and I start to doubt myself that I'm not coping and that the boys will hold this against me. Don't get me wrong I have amazing support from
family and friends, but they aren't going through this, I am and I have to find ways to realise that I am doing the best I can for my boys and that they do love me and know that I am doing the best I can for them.
I want to be here to form friendships for Mum's who need someone single or not, we need to be here for each other ladies, we need each other, lets be strong for each other and make some amazing memories not just for us but also for our children, they deserve this and hey so do we!!!!!!
I want to remind Mummy's that we are not ust Mummy's, this is something that I have come to realise in the last few weeks that I'm not just Mummy, I am still Jenny and Jenny needs her own time too, with friends or just on her own.
Well I hope I havent waffled on for too long and bored you all but this is just a little bit about me, look forward to talking to some of you and maybe helping if I can.
Thanks for reading ladies
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