Hello, are you giving birth in January, February or March and live in Exeter? Are you planning to give birth in a labour ward or a midwifery unit in a hospital and are healthy with no pregnancy complications? On Tuesday 8th December, Oxford University researchers are running an online focus group to find out what matters to women when deciding where to give birth. To find out more please seewww.npeu.ox.ac.uk/choices or email Carol at email@example.com for an information pack. To thank you for taking part we will be giving you a £25 shopping voucher.
Returning to work after maternity leave or a career break can be a daunting thing. It can be a huge change in lifestyle and responsibilities and for many it is simply a necessary evil.
We've put together some tips to help you get back to work.
1) Find a job you love
If you're looking for a new job then try to find something you'll enjoy or something that inspires you. Taking pleasure in your work will help keep the Monday morning blues at bay.
If you're returning to your old job then focus on the aspects of the job you love, be that the colleagues you work with, the satisfaction of completing tasks or simply the joy of payday. Whatever it is you like about your work, holding on to the thought of it will help you make the transition.
2) Find quality childcare
Knowing that your child is in safe hands is extremely important for your peace of mind. Research the different options available such as nurseries, pre-schools, childminders or friends & family babysitters. Childcare providers will allow you to visit their premises so go and see a few to find out what's available and most suited to your families needs. By picking the right setting for your child, the chances are your child will love it, making leaving them there much easier.
3)Think of the money
For the majority of mums returning to work, the main driving factor is because they want or need the extra cash. Remind yourself daily why you're doing this and how your life will be improved by your improved finances.
4)Focus on the positive message you're sending your kids
Teaching kids a good work ethic from a young age is always a great thing to do. It sends out a positive message about working for a living and will help to inspire them to do the same in future.
5) Handle your separation anxiety
There's much talk about babies separation anxiety, but mums can get if too. Don't be hard on yourself if you find being away from your baby too much for your emotions to handle at first. It's ok to have a cry in the toilet or under your desk. It's ok to call the nursery ten times in a day and it's ok to feel like running away. Remind yourself of the reasons why you've returned to work and focus on how great it'll feel to have a cuddle at the end of the day.
6) Find friends & colleagues with children.
Finding people in a similar situation will help you realise you're not alone. Talk about your feelings and concerns, chances are they feel exactly the same. You may even be able to set up an emergency child care circle, where you can call upon colleagues to babysit should you have to work late or have a child off sick when you need to be at work. Lots of parents work part time so if you can find some you trust and get on with this is a great way to help each other avoid taking time off work.
7) Enjoy the independence
Leaving the kids and heading off to work can feel like a very grown up thing to do. Although it can be scary at first, it's great for your confidence levels. No longer will you spend 24 hours a day speaking in baby tone. You can actually have adult conversations without a little person tugging on your cardigan or wiping snot on your shoulder. You can make new friends and learn new things just for you. Work is your time away from being mum, enjoy being a grown up and drop the guilt. This is your time.
Our next mums meet up is Wednesday 11th November 10am-12pm at Jelly Bears Play Lounge, Crossways Shopping Centre, Paignton.
Please join the Nice Mums Facebook group and add yourself to the event if you'd like more information or to come along. All mums welcome.
Our next Monthly Mum & Baby swim session is this Tuesday.
10 - 11am at The Oasis Leisure Club, Beverley Park, Paignton
£3 per adult, children free.
Under 5's only, max 2 children per adult.
If you would like to come or want me information please email Sarah firstname.lastname@example.org