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Don't forget you can buy your Nice Mums Devon Cards right there at reception 5 mornings a week for just £5 giving you 50% off your entrance fees all year!
Last year was my sons first Christmas so in typical new mum style I went wild and brought lots and lots of things, also as a single mum I wanted to get one up on his dad by buying better presents that him and I indulged myself in a silent competition. This year however I've been finding myself feeling rather guilty about the amount of presents I buy. My son certainly doesn't need all of the things I buy him at Christmas or throughout the year, and I'm becoming increasingly aware of the lesson all these gifts could teach him in materialistic values and as someone who doesn't consider themselves to be especially materialistic its something I would prefer my son not to be either, yet I appear to be teaching him the opposite and that more is more, just because my calendar states 25th December is rapidly approaching.
This week I've been busy putting together my shoebox for a childrens shoebox appeal ran by my local church. I've brought things like colouring books, pencils, a cuddly toy, a ball, gloves and other small gifts to put into my shoebox and seeing all these small presents that will make a childs Christmas and knowing its likely to be all they get this year really does make you think about how much we have compared to others and if we all just spread out what we have a little bit more and spent a bit less time thinking of ourselves Christmas could be a nicer time for so many.
In pondering these things I've set myself a Christmas challenge that I'd like to extend to the NIce Mums community. I've decided that by 25th December I want to have done ten selfless acts for others. I'll count my shoebox as one, but the rest I will not write what I have done for that could be seen as trying to make oneself look good and therefore not selfless, but I will just quietly do these tasks. Anyone who wants to join me theres no conditions or rules other than to not state what you've done, only that you've done a one of your selfless acts and when you have completed your ten.It could be things like donating money to a charity, taking a bag of old things to a charity shop, giving a blanket to a homeless person, checking on an elderly neighbour to see how their coping with the cold, taking time to give advice to one of our members in need, the list is endless and it doesn't matter what you do however big or small, just so long as its done purely with the good will of helping another.
Anyone who wants to get involved keep us updated by commenting on this blog, our Facebook group or sending us a tweet. I look forward to hearing your progress!
Peace & love
Can anyone help, a journalist friend of NMD is looking to speak to women who have suffered from post-natal depression for a sensitive piece following the recent tragic deaths of two mums.
The piece will focus on raising awareness of post-natal depression, and will discuss the help available to women. She would like to speak to someone who suffered from post-natal depression to talk about their personal journey.
If anyone has a story they feel could help others and who would be willing to talk to the press can you email us on firstname.lastname@example.org please and tell us a bit about your story along with your contact details for me us pass on.
Your story could help someone else so please do get in touch for a confidential chat.
Our latest discount for Nice Mum card holders is with Maxi Glow (www.maxiglow.co.uk) who are offering 15% off boiler services (normal price £65).
Maxi Glow are your local, dependable and professional company who believe that complying with regulations and standards is paramount. All work is guaranteed and we ensure that customers requirements are met from the design stage up to final installations. Maxiglow are based in Torquay.
Maxi Glow demonstrates technical expertise, offers friendly advice and provides cost-effective solutions to help improve energy efficiency within the home. We have become a well established company due to the sound foundation of it's existing clientele generating positive referrals. As a professional business we are committed to achieving excellence and remain true to 3 core values: Reliability, Expertise, Service
Why is boiler maintenance important?
Boiler maintenance is key to ensuring that your boiler is safe. While rare, gas leaks can be very dangerous and are often difficult to detect in your home. Having professional work carried out on your boiler is the best way to protect yourself against such disaster.
Whilst it should go unsaid, it’s also important to note that work should never be carried out by anyone other than a qualified professional. The primary reason for this is safety, but it could also prove costly to have to repair any mistakes made by an inexperienced engineer.
LEVEL OF SERVICE CARRIED OUT:
Polite and professional introduction to customer showing CORGI ACS identification card and explaining the importance of the visit.
Ascertain if the customer is encountering any problems with their Gas Appliance/s
Carry out a visual risk assessment of installation pipework, Gas Meter and Appliance/s
Commence Gas Tightness Test & check meter operating pressure on completion (trace & rectify any fault/s as necessary, in accordance with the gas safety (installation and use) regulations
Carry our electrical test - Earth continuity, Short Circuit, Resistance to Earth, Mains Voltage & polarity check.
Maxi Glow can also undertake the following (see their website for more details) :
GAS APPLIANCE INSTALLATION
GAS APPLIANCE REPAIR
GAS APPLIANCE SERVICING
SOLAR & UNDERFLOOR HEATING
QUALITY SYSTEM UPGRADES
We are excited to announce our Nice Mum Cards that enable the card holder to discounts with over 40 independant businesses will now be available to purchase from Play Cafe, 161 Higher Union Street, Torquay TQ1 4BX between the hours of 9.30-11.30am Monday to Friday or by calling 01803 431363 between those hours to order one by post.
Play Cafe are doing us a huge favour in providing this service so please show patience and politeness when purchasing cards as they do get very busy.
Please make sure you only try to purchase cards between the advertised hours and ensure you take ID with you when you buy one or email it to email@example.com if you are ordering one over the phone.
My world fell apart 3 days after I had my little man, 13th January to be precise.
Family & friends had been coming and going but nothing spoilt it for me until the dreaded C word was bought up by my parents when they came around on the 13th. They sat me down and I knew in my heart my Dad hadn’t been well but not in a million years did I think he had cancer. They explained with tears in their eyes it was bladder cancer but it was incurable so my dad would have it for however long he lived.
I asked question after question but nothing was sinking in, the incurable bit stuck in my head. Eventually after lots of tears they went home and left me & my partner sat in silence with our new-born son. Night after night I cried myself to sleep thinking my son wouldn’t know his Granddad and that killed me.
I pulled myself together and thought if I mope and treat my Dad differently then it’s not going to get any of us anywhere so I picked myself up and got us a house in Paignton (as we were in Torquay and I wanted to be closer to my Dad). Move day came & went and I got to see my Dad every day as I literally was up the road. The operation date came for the hospital to see how bad it was and try & remove the tumours, worse day of my life waiting & waiting & waiting. Eventually my mum called and said they’d managed to get about ¾’s of the tumours but he had to have chemo.
As soon as my dad came home I was waiting for him with his favourite buns made by me to cheer him up but he looked awful & felt even worse, he managed to eat a bun and gave me a smile that he always gives me when he doesn’t know what to say.
As the days & weeks passed he had his chemo and I came and stayed with him during the days when mum was at work. We just generally sat & talked but I was very grateful that he could muster the energy to play with my son and bonded.
6 months passed & yet another letter came from the hospital, another operation date loomed. This operation was exactly the same as the last but this time they removed loads more tumours and it really took its toll on dad as he had no immune system so he was constantly getting colds & flu’s but we all rallied around to keep dad smiling.
About 3 months after the last operation me & my partner were struggling to afford to rent so my parents agreed to let us all move in to their house, which meant putting up walls, moving furniture and sorting out endless crap you end up accumulating over the years. I thought I’ll get to help dad and make his life easier which I have done, I keep the house tidy & clean, I do the cooking etc which my dad totally appreciates as some days he doesn’t have the energy to make a cup of tea (I do that too).
Now were almost 3 years on and another operation has been and gone but this one was totally different, Dad had been unwell for a few weeks with a cold so was on antibiotics so we all expected the hospital to cancel the op but he went in at 8am & was home by 11am and said he’s never felt so healthy and fit before in his life!
Living with him for over a year now I have seen him extremely ill, frail, and lethargic but I’ve also seen him happy, playing with my son, my dogs having a laugh with the family.
I wanted to let other people know that the C word is scary as hell but it’s not all gloom & doom, My dad is as happy as he’s ever been and so are we.
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Hello! its been a while.....
since I last wrote, whats happened? The weather has turned, its officially COLD!! Plus its the Christmas run up, big game releases (£40/£50 a time?!) loads of toy adverts the word of the season is SKINT!
I hope you are all well and taking care of your broods and yourselves in these cold months :)
Well back to the blog. Last time I wrote GTA V has just been released (yawn) to hubbys great delight and entertainment! Since then we have be plagued with germs, my poor daughter had "bad coughies mummy" bless her, we have managed to shift that then I got ill, no fun trying to get through work, be a mum etc as well as trying to get over the cold, I am just getting there now, although as I type this the "man flu" has hit my hubby so hes in bed and eating his words that he had "no sympathy" for me "its only a sniffle" etc etc god bless Karma :)
So we have had Halloween and what mixed opinions out there, some people do parties their own or attend organised ones, some do halloween tea/crafts etc for their own children, others stick to tradition and just go trick or treating. I find people very negative towards the general trick or treating tradition which is a shame really but I can see their point. For me I think a group of children together under the age of 10 is nice to go trick or treating with (this is what we did with cousins of various ages), only calling at houses dressed up etc to avoid any upset to people. I do like the party idea too as it caters for children through to adults maybe taking the younger kids trick or treating as part of the party games? but whatever you did I hope you all had fun!! We certainly did, a bag full of sweets and treats but they are rationed in this house as I am a cruel mummy but I am lucky as my child enjoys the gathering of goodies and not so much the eating of such goodies.
Then we had bonfire night and my husband put it out there to his family about having a gathering at our house as we have a garden (we've never had one before). I admit I was sceptical that it would happen but as the date approached things started to set in stone, then thats when I started to stress! How was I going to do the food? Prepare the house? buy fireworks? etc whilst still working and trying to be a mum! Well the date was changed from Tuesday 5th to Sunday 3rd! Sunday in general is my day off so it was a mad dash after work on Friday for food and fireworks, then I hit frozen food sat morning on the way into work and had it deliveried. Sat night we relaxed with Alexis watching DVD's, proper Saturday night dinner (Alexis & I make homemade pizzas - takes 15 mins!).
Sunday morning the chaos started! I scrubbed upstairs, every room and tidied!! Then I hit downstairs, all done by 1pm. Then I realised I needed to prep the food!! So in went sausge rolls, cheese and onion rolls, jelly set, cheese cake done. Lunch served to Alexis and myself, cup of tea and off again, Alexis at this point is playing hostess helping lay the table set out plates wrapping the food etc. By 4pm we were ready! Guests arrived from 5pm and to my amazement it was a fantastic night! Hubby was firework man (probably why he is ill as he got soaked) and I stayed inside to play hostess and it was brilliant, although I won't be doing it again anytime soon! I was shattered but it was worth the in laws gathering to have us all bond and spend time together, the kids loved it too.
Going to work Monday was interesting though :) I struggled to get up! Now the planning for my parents visiting at the end of the month starts, then its Christmas! Do us mums ever rest??
I have also in my wisdom started on good old fashioned home cooking, meals and desserts so I will let you know how I am getting on and I will try to remember to take pictures. My cheesecake was homemade at the gathering and went down a storm! go me :)
until next time folks